You always realize how much you love someone when it comes time to say goodbye. Sometimes I manage to hold it together until I leave the sight of the other person or people in an airport or at a train station, but that doesn’t mean I don’t cry. I’m on my own again; Karen and Dad are on their way back to Alaska and Marianne is back to her menagerie. I think I must be slightly insane, all this travel so fast is hard to keep up with psychologically and emotionally.
Our two weeks at Marianne’s were a blessing. It was so good to find old friends and pets again and to taste some peach beer and laugh at my horrible French. I did indeed get some homework done, but I will be finishing it (hopefully) during my two-day journey. (There’s a tween watching Alvin and the Chipmunks 2 in front of me on this plane and he keeps turning around and staring at me. Either that or there’s someone or something really interesting just behind my head. Go on, kid, look at the Dutch-dubbed chipmunks. Ah yes, it’s the stewardess with emergency compartments. Alright then.)
So. Belgium.
Our first week, while Karen and Dad checked out Amsterdam, I got the most beautiful surprise – not only was Benjamin in town against all odds, but the two of us got to surprise a third buddy from school, Sharon. Now, to understand just how precious this gift was, you have to realize that I hadn’t heard much of anything from either of them in at least a year. Ben had virtually disappeared from the internet after deciding to go to Canada to contemplate joining Marie Jeunesse, and Sharon just doesn’t use the internet on a regular basis. I didn’t even know if Ben would be in the country, let alone free, and I had no idea how to get ahold of Sharon unless I walked up to her front door and knocked (I was gearing up to do just that). Turns out that Ben just happened to be back in Belgium, only for a month, and I just happened to catch him before his job started, and he just happened to be in town. God has been doing big things in his life, and it was such a joy to talk to him again. He called up Sharon and her family and told her that he wanted to visit, but that he had a surprise. I got to pop out of the back seat of his car when she walked up and casually say hi while her jaw dropped. And then it was bis and time to go get something to drink and eat some fries together. Ben and Sharon talked like old times, including Ben and myself trying to explain why God makes sense to Sharon, who thinks it all very interesting but not convicting. She is so open-minded, and Ben so eager to explain. It was wonderful.
The next week Pepe took us to visit the boat elevators, which Dad really liked (it wasn’t another art museum, after all!) We also went to Ghent with Pepe. He hired a guide to tell us everything about the city center in English; we really confused him with a Francophone, two English speakers, and a Fleming (Jean-Pierre came too) as well as one American who seemed to get his French jokes. After a little explanation he did really well hopping between tongues. After the guide left we toured the Count’s Castle, which stands out in my memories for the collection of medieval weaponry and the torture museum as well as the lovely towers and spiral staircases. Karen, who had specifically requested to see a castle during her stint in Europe, was pretty happy. We also took a tour on a boat, enjoying the breeze on the water under the hot sun. I also spent some time admiring our guide’s awesome green spectacles, her shock of blond hair, and her ability to make jokes in 3 languages almost simultaneously without getting mixed up between the 3. Ghent was preparing for the Ghent Feast, a 10-day hullaballoo of free concerts and (paid for) beer. The last day of the festival is appropriately named “empty wallet” day. We missed the festivities themselves, but saw all the platforms and workers everywhere. Pepe piloted us out of the city without too much attitude from his gps.
Karen and Dad also went to Bruges, and on Friday we all went to Brussels. The Magritte museum is still awesome, and I think he might even upset Van Gogh as my favorite artist. He’s a surrealist, but one that makes sense. Here are some of my favorites that we saw:
Unexpected Answer
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The Return
Realm of Arnaheim

We also did the mandatory picture with Mannekin Pis (the peeing boy statue) and dawdled a while in the Grand Place. I was so proud of myself, I remembered how to get around and even found the same cheap Chinese restaurant Julia and I enjoyed so long ago. The food was still cheap and good – we had a 3 course meal for 9 euros each and Karen could eat all of it. Don’t judge us, Asian immigrant food rocks.
Then we headed out to spend the night at Jean-Pierre’s place, deep in the heart of Flanders, just a 20 km from Antwerp. We needed to call him to let him know when we were coming, and we couldn’t figure out the pay phones and their card system before the train came, so we hadn’t called. I was so self-conscious to ask someone for their phone – I was wearing my GU tshirt and I speak like 3 words of Dutch and I was with two other obvious tourists. And then I was brilliant and used French instead of English. So no one lent me their cell phone, Dad got a taxi driver to help us, and I relearned my lesson about looking grungy in Europe. Never wear American t-shirts in a European public space.
The next day we bummed around Antwerp, revisiting places JP had showed Julia and me a few years ago. We toured the Rubens house again. Everything and everyone in Western art is so obviously copying or at least quoting Rome, it makes me laugh now. Even his garden looked like a mini triumphal arch with statues stuffed into niches to add to the effect. The woodwork and leather/gold leaf wall coverings were just as cool as I remembered though. Then we walked about town, looking in the Cathedral and looking out over the schelde/l’escaut (the river that runs through Antwerp, Ghent, and Tournai, among other places). JP took us down Antwerp’s tiniest road, not much bigger than a hallway, to find this old 15th century cellar that is now a café. A gentleman who offered to show us the upper part of a home from 1533 for a small fee stopped us just outside the cellar. We took him up on it, and weren’t sorry – the house was stuffed full of replicas and live chickens and lit candles that all screamed ‘1533!’ It was really neat, and he had an informative and quirky shpeel to go with the house. We learned about chamber pots and using mussel shells for toilet paper (how Belgian. I think I prefer the nice fluffy kind with little colored designs on it though), as well as keeping rabbits and other critters in the attic, as there was no room for a garden. After we’d poked around a bit and slithered up and down the teeny staircases we had a drink down in the cellar. It’s hard to beat the ambiance of a cellar from 1400, but I wouldn’t show up there on Halloween(not that Belgians celebrate that anyway).
Saturday night we enjoyed dinner at Denis and Martine’s home with the Coquay clan. The boys have grown up so much since I last saw them; Romain is Karen’s age, and boy has he changed. He’s speaking good English, some Spanish, and has shot up at least a foot. Antoine’s voice has dropped, and Maxime is styling his hair. Everyone else hasn’t changed much; Denis and Martine still make and incredible amount of incredible food and Pepe still enjoys every single bite. Robert still loves to sing to Denis’ improvisations on the baby grand, Marianne still humors Denis’ insistence on her trying to play musical instruments from his collection, and Cecile still takes photos to remember occasions. Dad and Karen had fun too, and the Arabian couscous, veggies, and chicken with candied lemon stole their hearts. Pepe sent champagne corks flying into the goldfish pond (les poissons rouges, mais les pois son verts!) and we left full and happy.
Sunday Belgium changed kings (ask me the mayo joke sometime) and celebrated the national feast day. A few flags hung out of windows, and the radio talked about what the new queen was wearing, but otherwise everything was pretty calm. We did go to the artifoire, which was a little fair with old crafty things in it, along with plenty of beer and some music. We stood around and drunk things and tried not to die in the heat like good Belgians.
Julia (the Finnish one, not the Icelandic one) and Jade got back from their month-long camping trip in Scandinavia the second week, so Karen and I hung out with them and just chatted. I’m really glad I got to meet Julia, I’ve heard a lot about her and she’s quite delightful. Her beautiful French accent makes me want to cry a little bit, but since she wants to go into translation for her profession I can forgive her talent and 4 or 5 language ability. Jade likes her studies at the Tourism school and seems happy with Julia. Yesterday we went and bought beer at the Carrefour and just sat around talking and eating chips and chocolate for hours while we tried to avoid the heat. We also watched Fracture in English with Dad (good movie- I won’t spoil it, but it’s worth watching).
Late that night Stephanie and her family came over – the daughter of the neighbors who has been living in Chile. Her husband, Philipe, is Chilean, so the both of them had some friendly advice for me. I’m really glad they gave me some heads up; apparently Chileans don’t think much of dogs, don’t hate Americans, and don’t believe in using clocks. They also speak at an incredible speed – I couldn’t understand anything Philipe said in Spanish, but when Stephanie talked I could get the gist of it. Jade couldn’t even distinguish the words when he talked, and she speaks Spanish after 6 months in Costa Rica. I’m pretty nervous about my language skills, I haven’t been keeping up my Spanish and now my head is solidly in French mode, even if my French was limping a bit after 2 years neglect. I am prepared to understand nothing and smile a lot.
I do know who my host family is now, but I haven’t talked with them much. I sent an email last night and haven’t heard back. They don’t have any pets, so that will be a change! I keep drumming into my head the old AFS motto : “It’s not good, it’s not bad, it’s just different.” Hopefully that will help me get my head on straight to take in all of this in a few more hours.
Fin, bref – I can never find a way to thank the people in my life. Everyone in Belgium has been so hospitable, Marianne inspires me and loves me, Dad and Karen gave me their time and patience among other things, the Coquay family took me under their wing, Jade and Julia made me laugh. And God put each and every single one of them into my life. I’m nervous, I’m a little sad I’m not on my way home, I’m not ready, but there’s also much to rejoice in. Andiamo!